HAPPY NEW YEARS!
HAPPY NEW YEARS!
NYC has been crippled by a blizzard. Yes people, this city that is usually so well-prepared and efficient could not get its act together to prep or clean up after Sunday’s snow storm (which by the way totally sucked because it was the day AFTER Christmas).
I mean people, look at this:
Anyway, back to the original point, I went to work the next day (one of like 3 people who actually showed up) and was shocked to see that Times Square, that’s TIMES SQUARE, wasn’t even cleaned up. Hello? Where am I? The dirty South? New York does not get crippled by snow. It does not get crippled by bomb threats, bad broadway shows that are way too expensive (please see Spider Man costs), or the massive development of hipsters. And please realize that I am not complaining. I am simply pointing out that NYC is still covered in snow because it chooses to. Because for Pete’s sake, it’s the holidays. No one wants to be out there shoveling snow. The bad weather was just a great excuse for New Yorkers (as well as those from CT and Jersey) to just chill for a little. It was an excuse.
Truth be told, we are capable of whatever we choose, if we put our mind to it. Of course, this doesn’t always work on other people (for example, if you work really hard at a relationship, there’s still no guarantee of a positive outcome because it requires a second party’s commitment as well) BUT, you can always start with yourself. You have to want it in order to make any progress, let alone achieve your goal.
We, here at chez Mag and Holly, are all about goals. And there’s no better time than now to start. You can cope, you just gotta wanna. 2 days until the New Year people. Start thinking about those goals! In one day, we’ll be poppin’ the 12 bottles of champagne in our (NEW!) fridge. And then maybe we’ll have room for some food…
See you in 2011!
New York in December is amazing. But it’s not amazing for the reasons you may think. It’s not because of the tree in Rockefeller or the ice rink in Bryant Park. In fact, that stuff makes me depressed. Well, maybe they wouldn’t if I hadn’t of visited the tree with Ex-Boyfriend last year and gone ice skating with him… BUT, point is, it’s amazing because of the energy. I mean, the energy is always crazy in New York but in the winter, it has such a positive vibe to it. Spirits are high not simply because of the holidays but also because everyone’s going on vacation, there’s a new year around the corner, which means new beginnings! Every year, we tell ourselves that this year, we’ll make a change. This year will be different.
Ex-boyfriend decided that he would “dominate” 2010. Truthfully, I don’t think he did. Sadly, he hasn’t changed that much since college. Honestly, I’m not sure if I did either but I would say that I’ve done a lot better for myself since him. It’s almost like life is reminding me that I don’t need a man to be happy. Since the break up, I’ve gotten into the top law schools of the country, been promoted, booked a flight to Grand Cayman, taught a professional baseball player how to line dance, quit my job, and planned a trip to Europe.
And you know what, it’s better to be single and happy than to be in a miserable relationship. My friend is in her early 30s and is single. She was in a 9 year relationship from college through law school and realized at one point that he wasn’t right for her. While many women would have said to themselves, well I’ve already invested this much time… but my girl is not like that. She is such a strong person and one of the reasons why I decided that I could go into law. Point is, many of her friends have now been married for 5 or 6 years and they are either ready to get a divorce or just plain miserable. Why? They all got married before 25. Get this: the human brain doesn’t stop developing until 24. They say it takes even longer for men. Figures. How can you know who your soulmate is when you don’t even know your soul? (I got that from the book mentioned below).
You may think that you’ll be happier in a relationship, but your happiness is not dependent on your relationship status. Happiness is happiness, with or without someone else.
Though truth be told, I miss him. The holidays really remind me of him. Sigh. But, as previously stated, a new year is just around the corner! And I’ll be in EUROPE!!!
Truer and wiser words have never been spoken. There is a senior paralegal at my firm whom everyone thinks is off her rocker, but seriously, if you’ve worked there for that long, you’d probably be crazy as well. Anyway, this lady is the sweetest thing ever and in addition to all her advice about the legal profession, I think her best one so far has been the above quote.
“You can’t grow old with an asshole”.
Seriously, if you can’t stand the person you’re with right now because he’s being rude and obnoxious can you just imagine what it would be like 30 years from now? How about 40? 50? 60? And you know what, he’s not going to get any better. If he’s terrible now, he’s going to continue to be terrible. Drop it like it’s hot. And by it, I mean the relationship.
On to the next topic, this book is an absolute must-read for anyone in their 20s or even 30s. It’s called “Last One Down the Aisle Wins”. It’s essentially a guide to living life to the fullest when you’re young and not chained down to let’s say… a husband, kids, a mortgage… It has truly inspired me. You can buy it here. So as a result, I gave notice last Friday. In February, I’ll be leaving this wonderful city for France for 2 1/2 months then onto China for another few months, then to start law school. It wasn’t the book that gave me the idea, I had always wanted to travel but it’s awfully hard to leave home, especially when you’ve got a job, all your friends here and oh yeah, your dear old boyfriend. But now that I’m single, I can go anywhere! The book only reaffirmed that it was a great idea. READ IT.
Tata for now!